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Apr. 30th, 2020 05:43 pm
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"We considered it, but if we changed ourselves just to survive, would it even matter if we did?"
-Delores, Westworld, s3e6 Decoherence
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I'm seeing a lot of things on Twitter lately that have been annoying and sometimes hurtful. Some of the Rise of Skywalker discourse has been "the real tragedy is that the characters remain virgins". There's a lot of smut, smut, all the smut fics, who needs anything but smut, that's how you see it's a REAL romance/relationship.
The announcement that the new Cinderella will put less focus on her finding a prince has led to "women have be shown to be strong AND in sexual relationships" where you have to be both otherwise it's "sexless" and bad.
And gems like the above, where you're NOTHING without "needing" a sexual partner and biological kids. (It was probably mostly bad phrasing by the OP but that doesn't take away the hurt)

There was an episode of "Legends of Tomorrow" where a guest character attempts seduction of a regular character with the line "life is nothing without love" and it was hurtful at the time. I rewatched it last week and I decided that love can mean love for your wider family, for your friends, your pets, your community, your country, for authors you'll never meet and the books they wrote, and so much more. Love is about connection and caring about something/someone.

I'm tired of seeing virgin used an insult or treated as something undesirable/tragic. I'm tired of seeing love only acknowledged when it refers to a sexual partner.

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I'm not really back yet, though I'm feeling better and working on editing my Small Fandom Big Bang. I'm looking at my inbox which has 50 items and feeling too overwhelmed to deal with that yet however.

I do want to share this though, something non-fiction related which I dashed off and posted to Tumblr.

Silencing Women

I watched Murdoch Mysteries s13e01 Troublemakers and the Georgian set Canadian crime drama in this episode was looking at female suffrage, i.e. allowing women to vote.
There was opposition from men. There was opposition from women, one in particular, a society lady who told titular Detective Murdoch that his wife, a respected doctor, was in the wrong for being a suffragette and wanting the vote, that she and those speaking in favour were "leading women astray."

She claimed that "It denigrates women. We are the moral centre of society; we should not be sullying ourselves with politics."

What struck me was how this statement has and continues to be applied to women on any number of issues. That women are easily 'denigrated' if they don't 'behave properly'.

Change sullying ourselves with politics for "business matters" "higher education" "the military" "the law" "the medical profession" "writing" - women have had to fight for acceptance to every profession there is.

Change sullying with politics for "reading novels"; from When Novels Were Bad For You an op-talk article from the nytimes:

“In Madame Bovary, I think Flaubert is channeling a century of worries about young women as particularly susceptible to the fantasies they find in novels and the seductions of reading,” Margaret Cohen, a professor of French language, literature and civilization, told Op-Talk.
From the late 18th century through the middle of the 19th, she added, women “were considered to be in danger of not being able to differentiate between fiction and life.”


Change politics for "writing", for "writing fanfiction" for "being in fandom", for "shipping x" (and even if you're not a shipper you probably can think of at least one ship that's caused outrage and harassment).

This latest toxic phase of fandom, the anti-shippers who bully and harass and dogpile shippers - often sending rape/death threats and/or suicide baiting - is not truly about the ship in question. This latest round of fandom policing is not about making society better but keeping the status quo, of trying to 'protect' women from being lead astray. It claims women can't tell fiction from reality and that if they read a story about an abusive relationship they will idealise it and seek out a similar relationship, too muddle-headed to realise they are being abused.
Trying to control what people ship and accusing them of crimes (e.g. calling someone a pedophile if they enjoy a ship between the 'wrong' adult characters who have any sort of age gap) is not really about protecting women. Bullying and false accusations cause harm.

It is about sexism, and sexism that comes, as that episode noted, as much from other women as it does from men. They want to keep women from "sullying" themselves, "denigrating" themselves, no matter how much the women they're trying "protect" would rather have agency and make their own choices and take responsibility for their own actions.

When someone says they're trying to "protect women from thinking abuse is bad" by harassing shippers, they are echoing the same ideas as those who would deny women the right to work, to vote, to have control over their own bodies, or to otherwise be full participants in society.
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It's annual asexual awareness week. I've written a lot in previous years about the awareness weeks, about my asexual identity, and I write and continue to write fiction exploring and/or including asexuality.
You can find all those posts under the theme: asexuality spectrum tag, the non sexual intimacy and the sexuality tag

This post is going to talk about asexuality and fiction, along with some deeply personal stories, and a fair bit of talk about the anti/fandom policing currently doing the rounds. Because these things are interlinked, where

1) what you ship, read or write/draw now determines if you're a good person or a filthy p*do/n*zi and harassing people over fiction has become activism
2) exclusionism in the queer community leads to attacking people over their own sexual orientation/labels and makes for tight-knit circles where you have to conform to their beliefs, with a similar insulating effect in fandom anti-shipping circles
3) Your sexual orientation, sex, and gender, are often considered to be indicators of what you are allowed to like in fiction (you can't be a lesbian and ship a m/f ship, you can't write m/m ships unless you're a gay man, women reading m/m fic are "gross Fujoshis", etc)

There's also been a huge rise in ageism and it's mostly misogynistic (fandom mom used as an insult, calling people hags, telling women they should be doing their taxes and looking after their children instead of being in fandom spaces) but that's a slightly separate, if related issue from the sexual orientation one.

This year, despite the discourse/drama/wank over Neil Gaiman refusing to call Aziraphale and Crowley "gay men in a sexual relationship" and daring to acknowledge nonbinary people and asexuality exist, there's been a lovely amount of Good Omens fic and art that is non sexual in nature, some romantic, some queerplatonic. People have been good at tagging their work so it's easy to find/exclude things you don't want to read.
I've been writing h/c fic, I even wrote fluff (very rare for me), and I explored the idea of non-binary Crowley which was something new for me. I've been enjoying looking at exploring intimacy with care and respect for boundaries, and showing deep devotion that isn't rooted in sex.

However there's also been a lot of ace hate and exclusion on Tumblr and Twitter as a whole leading me to block many accounts. I wrote a bit about exclusionism in the queer community for one of this month's writingwednesday posts. I have to say, aside from one upsetting exchange with a family member and one online straight female who was proud of saying "zucchini*! Because asexuals are emotional vegetables!", most of the ace hate and marginalisation I have seen and experienced has come from other queer people.

*zucchini is a term sometimes used within queer platonic relationships, especially for an aroace person to describe their partner "They're my zucchini."
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I honestly expected things to get better over the years. And while in some respects they have, the pushback against asexuality and bisexuality has been unexpected and unwelcome, along with the return of "gay ships are bad because I say so" and the rise of "the shipper of anything I don't like is evil and probably a pedophile".
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I usually do a round-up of all the #writingwednesday fiction I've posted to my writing blogs but these pieces are longer and have a lot of notes included so I'm going to post them here individually.

No Pride in Exclusionism

This month's theme is 'gatekeeping'. Today's piece looks at gatekeeping within the LGBTQ+ community.
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I'm not going to tag Good Omens or shinynewfandom because I'd like that to reflect when I create or rec something and not just rant about the discourse.

At the heart of Good Omens, getting a renaissance due to the Netflix adaptation, is the Crowley (demon) and Aziraphale (angel) relationship.
Gaiman says it is a love story.
The book says while people assume Aziraphale is gay, angels are sexless unless they make an effort.
Gaiman also says the relationship can be platonic or romantic, not to rule out the characters being asexual or aromantic or trans.
People start screaming queerbaiting, homophobia.
They say if two men are together they're having sex or it's homophobia.
They say having asexual characters is "desexualising" and so homophobia.
They say there are already plenty of men in platonic relationships onscreen so there's no need for more so they're having sex. (Never mind that 99% of male platonic bonds are the H50 buddy cop style bromances, no homo, I love you man but look how many women I'm dating, live with you as a life partner nah I need to have sex with women)
They say it's obvious the characters are in love therefore they must be having sex. That their non-fannish mother insists there must be missing sex scenes because their love is so obvious.

People will ship what they want and post their explicit pwp to AO3.
But what they shouldn't be doing is screaming homophobia about, let alone at, Neil Gaiman.
They shouldn't be shouting down asexuals who want to see an actual QPR (NO IT'S JUST BEING BEST FRIENDS FOR THE MILLIONTH TIME) or nonsexual but romantic relationship onscreen.
They shouldn't be denying that there are het, bi, and homoromantic asexuals. By saying Crowley and Aziraphale have to be screwing they're saying no man can love a man without sex. In fact no-one can love without sex.

I'm tired of this love=sex crap. I'm sick of the discourse. I'm so done.
I've read the book twice. I've watched the first episode of the adaptation and will watch more. I've been reading some non-explicit fanfic. I may write some. But this constant "wahhhhh homophobia if they're not banging like a screen door in a storm" is not making the fandom a welcoming place to be overall.

While I'm ranting, there was a nice pro-asexual Good Omens article at Medium which I quoted from at tumblr. However I could have done without them insisting that most asexuals can/will have sex.
There's only 2 types of aces strongly acknowledged in the discourse typified as
1) aromantic aces, so lol they can only be friends with people don't date them anyway
2) asexuals who feel no/little sexual attraction but will always let you screw them anyway so they're still like real, dateable people!

The idea of nonsexual romantic intimacy is unacknowledged by most.

Final rant. I've been watching season 6 of Brooklyn 99 and jfc I don't know if the show is ruined for me after "Casecation".
The old "person doesn't want kids but is pressured by child-wanting spouse into agreeing to have them or they're getting dumped" trope.
There is never any "good" reason for someone to not want kids in these shows. You get pressured into changing your mind or you get dumped.
In B99 they even had mutual friend Rosa offer to bully Jake into changing his mind because Amy has to have babies.
I've seen this in too many other shows. This is the main reason I dropped Supergirl. (this article has a good take on that)

It's kind of related I guess. People are pressured to be sexual and to have children or else they're doing relationships/life wrong.

Why do I write nonsexual romance in fanfic? Because goddamn it I'm desperate to see that. It speaks to me as something I can imagine for myself.
Why do I write childfree characters in my original work? Because there aren't many options in fanfic, original fic is always pulling this "not a real marriage until he screws me and I give him heirs", and I desperately want childfree characters to exist. Not childless, not evil, not unsure but they'll change their minds, not damaged but they get 'fixed' and can't wait to have kids, but 100% committed to never ever having children.

tl;dr love does not equal sex.
Childfree people exist.
Comments are on but I'm behind on replies, the current climate has made me less want to check notifications and comments to be honest.
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Half Magic is very much a women's movie. Written and directed by and starring Heather Graham, it focuses on three women's attempts to improve their lives and relationships with a little help from each other and some magical candles.



I rarely watch romances and this was in the romance section of Sky Movies but I'd seen wonderful gifs featuring Luke Arnold (Black Sails) and I knew it starred Stepanie Beatriz (Brooklyn Nine-Nine) so I gave it a shot.


Gif from: http://significanceofmoths.tumblr.com/post/171215086687

Sexism, Friendship, Sensuality, Sexuality and Self-Acceptance

Honey (Graham) is working as a development assistant with her asshole boyfriend (Chris D'Elia) who uses her for his sexual gratification over making sure she's enjoying it and puts her and her ideas down at every opportunity. She wants to make his movies less sexist, wants to write and direct her own screenplays. Supported by fellow office worker and a female sponsor, Honey keeps pitching to make the scripts featuring her boyfriend feature more women with sexual agency.
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As the anti and purity culture took hold on Tumblr there were pro-shipping and anti-anti blogs stepping up to provide alternative views, support for shippers and creators, defend against ageism and harassment, and providing information about fiction, fandom history, and more.

The post "How Web 2.0 (and especially tumblr) is ruining fandom" is especially enlightening. The post is at :
https://freedom-of-fanfic.tumblr.com/post/169347159994/how-web-20-and-especially-tumblr-is-ruining
If it ever gets deleted, as many pro-shipping blogs have been shut down, I have an Evernote capture: https://www.evernote.com/shard/s260/sh/56204b96-5961-44fa-b86a-1ed2e1eb6e24/6541240b7bc13f651c80b445afe3d079

The post describes the "Web 2.0: web model where dotcoms create a free space for users to generate their own content, depending on advertisers for their income"; so Tumblr and Twitter, but not Dreamwidth and not AO3 who do not have advertising.

Some of the key points, expanded on in the post include:
• following people instead of joining communities based on interests has negative emotional and social implications
• social media sites benefit from knocking down privacy walls
• social media sites benefit from eroding online anonymity.
• social media sites benefit from conflict.
• social media sites are therefore deincentivized to address abuse reports, increase moderation, improve blacklisting tools, or offer privacy options.
• moderated communities were replaced by following unmoderated tags, directly leading to and encouraging the creation of hate spaces
• reacting to content that enrages you increases the chances of encountering it again because algorithms
• It’s easy to spread misinformation (and hard to correct it)*
• information fatigue caused by web 2.0 makes black & white thinking look attractive
• everyone is only 2 seconds away from being doxxed

* There's an awful anti-rape post that when I see it, I reblog with the Snopes debunking because telling women they need to cut their hair or risk getting raped is not something you should have to be seeing in this day and age.
Also a post that says you've abused your child's trust the first time they lie to you, as if learning to lie isn't part of expected development from two – three and half years old.

Furthermore
“Discussion on tumblr is like two people trying to have a philosophical debate on opposite sides of a crowded room by megaphone” - exactly this. and bystanders pressure - knowing that your responses are visible to everyone - adds so much pressure to the debaters to be decisive and firm [ie lack of nuance and reasonable discussion]
– the loss of semi-private spaces where we can be certain that our audience will share our contextual basis and we can be sure the content won’t spread beyond where we want it to makes us lonely. We always have to have our business faces on: every time we slip we risk destruction by shame culture.

Which is why privacy controls like we have at DW and even LJ, are so important. Friends/Circle vs public. Specific people you choose for a filter. Posting content in your own space.
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It's not straight washing to give a queer character a different queer identity. Canon sexualities (presumed, they're not often stated especially for het characters) are changed all the time for slash purposes and mixed sex OT3s. A character doesn't have to be "Straight" or "A Gay" just because you think canon says so.
The split attraction model is a thing.
Sexual fluidity is a thing. Questioning is a thing. Preferring an umbrella term like queer is a thing.
Bisexuality is a thing.
Seriously, bisexuality is a thing, it needs repeating apparently.
It's not desexualising a character to read them as asexual.
You can can ship asexual characters romantically or platonically; also demisexuality and gray-asexuality exist.
Seriously, you can love someone without having sex with them.
So panromantic asexuals, biromantic lesbians, demisexual bisexuals, and pretty much any other labels you want are available. Especially for fictional characters, who let us explore questions of sexual orientation and identity in ways we could not otherwise do.



Originally posted to Tumblr. I have some specific examples in mind here but I'm generally irritated at the policing of sexuality going on and the subsequent erasure of romantic and sexual orientations that aren't "straight or gay/lesbian".
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Two things I've posted elsewhere, one about "Supergirl", talking about asexual representation and a lesbian character, and one about "The Librarians" and why a bisexual character is a family friendly character.
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I'm not pariticpating in the current round of [community profile] therealljidol for various reasons (you can sign up until Wednesday if you'd like to). But I will probably read and vote. There's also scope to write non-voting entries for the prompts. This week's is "I need the struggle to feel alive". And I could not disagree more.

I take pleasure in completion of projects, and overcoming some obstacles. Think of an online game; you can complete tasks, save points, buy upgrades. Or you can pay for the upgrades. Which is more satisfying? The one where you put the work in. But constant struggling is not fun, not satisfying, not rewarding. Working witout achieving success is soul destroying.

Which brings me to apathy.

The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference - Elie Wiesel

the worst thing you can do to an author is to be silent as to his works - Samuel Johnson

My NaNo failures continue. I skipped a day yesterday, out for a Christmas Shopping & Meal Out with my sister and a movie on the night with family. I don't regret it but it means my wordcount deficit is now staggering, 10.5k, and if I write nothing today 12k.

I've posted a ficlet and a fic during NaNo, hoping feedback would help inspire me to do more. But no matter how many posts I make, or how much fic I post, or fic promo posts I post, I'm not getting comments on fic, barely any reblogs of tumblr posts. Same for journal entries I make, and comments I leave on entries and on fic; barely any response. I've made an effort to make more posts this month. I've made an effort to leave more comments on fic this month and got responses to less than half.

Apathy cannot kill my creative urge entirely but it can sap it enough that I see no reason to finish anything* or share it publicly, and jfc it's laughable to think about original work when fanfic (even about a popular ship) can't muster up enthusiasm from a built-in audience.**
I'm just feeling down for a few reasons right now, this is just one of them but it's a big one. Writing has always felt like who I am and if that's pointless, it's all pointless.***


* 2 x 10k fics one in each of those same two fandoms, why bother? Because I made a commitment is all I've got right now.

** cue "oh you should only write for yourself and not care at all about audience"; if I write for myself and myself alone why post? I've got unposted fanfic novellas that are for me. If I'm posting it's because I'm sharing.
If I write you a personal email I'm talking to you, if I make a filtered post I'm talking to a select group of people, if I make a public post I'm saying "I exist, I am here, I have thoughts, I have made this thing, please listen and respond in kind."

*** cue "you should have more REAL interests"; you think real life friends haven't dropped me once they get spouses/kids, you think I should get a partner when society keeps making it clear that asexuals don't deserve relationships because sex is the be-all-and-end-all of partnerships. Or maybe you think my clerking job (which I do enjoy and get some satisfaction from) is a replacement for the desire to create and be heard? I'm tired of being told I should get more "real work"/be an editor/take up *insert non-creative activity here*; I'm looking to succeed in what I love, not do what anyone else thinks I should be doing.
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I'm still angry about the addition of a "like" button at LJ. I damn near almost pressed it the other day and stopped myself because either don't comment or take the time to leave a comment. That's one part of what makes journals better than Tumblrs. Connection.

So I left a comment. That's how discussion can happen. That's how you can share opinions and trade stories and discover new things.

All the vapid Tumblring has trained me to click the like button instead of leaving a comment, yet I managed to resist the urge. What we have in this space is valuable and we should protect and nurture it.

For bonus points I want to brainstorm with someone but because fandom only lives at Tumblr these days and Tumblr has no communities it's almost impossible to find the right people to connect with. And if you post at the "wrong time" any post you make can get lost in the avalanche of reblogs (I've seen some of the same damn posts eighteen times over the last couple of days. This wouldn't happen with personal journals and communities corralling debate into a few spaces instead of every single blogger endlessly reblogging the whole damn thing)

O RLY LJ?!

Nov. 1st, 2016 12:15 pm
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I so miss community. I miss threaded conversations. I miss being able to post a question or ask for a beta at a community and getting responses that were always helpful/supportive even if they weren't immediate solutions. I miss the way you didn't have to be a Big Name Blogger to gain audience because of the way communities provided spaces for individuals to gather. (Something I wrote in a response to a comment where the commentator and I were commiserating over the Tumblr culture vs LJ/DW culture.)

I complain a lot about the "click like" culture of Tumblr; with no communities you'll often go unnoticed when posting unless a Big Name Blogger in your fandom/interest reblogs you, and you should be grateful for a "like" let alone a reblog and as for helpful commentary, it is like gold dust.
And yes at LJ/DW journals the constant "no comments" on your entries becomes soul destroying, but that's the thing about journals, the modicum of effort required to participate goes beyond a "I clicked like" interaction. And comments allow for conversation.

Yet now LJ wants to introduce a "like" feature: http://lj-releases.livejournal.com/91232.html
And they haven't even learnt from the FB debacle that finally led to the use of different emojis to be used instead of just the thumb's up - because you don't want to "like" someone's tale of woe, you want to sympathise.

I'll be over here, still missing community in the sense of belonging and communities in the sense of shared spaces where individuals can find each other without needing to be super popular. And I'll no doubt succomb to the laziness of the like culture when I can't be bothered to write even "nice fic" or "interesting post", and I'll hate myself for it but I'll argue that it's "better than nothing".
Settling for "better than nothing" is something I already do far too much.
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Personal/Memes
questions and answers meme
whining about writing
what punctuation mark are you
Black Sails S3 – aye or nay?
White Collar S6 – fic requests

Versailles mini recap/review
s1e5-6
s1e7-8
s1e9-10

Indian Summers
Camptown Races audio clip and pics from the show
You Should Be Writing meme pics
What S3 of Indian Summers could have offered
Blake Ritson as Charlie singing nonsense clip
Gifs from S2e08
Picspam; I want my wife
Ride a Cock Horse clip

Gifs

Da Vinci's Demons – message
(DvD/Indian Summers) DvD/Indian Summers
We're Borgias

Graphics: Da Vinci's Demons with Desperado quotes
one
two
three
four

I also made and submitted some TFLN/DvD graphics to Texts From Florence: here and here and here

Fic recs

Da Vinci's Demons fic: Under Boughs of Sunlight by emeraldsoul
2 x Black Sails (silverflint) fics by writesometimes
show me the way to go home Black Sails fic by vowelinthug

Article recs

MEDIA
6 reasons you should be watching Black Sails

Midnight, Texas Trailer

SOCIAL ISSUES
tumblr rec of this article, How to Positively Represent Asexuality within Humorous Fiction: Part 2, “Options that can be funny without being hurtful!. ” (Part One by the same wordpress author: How to Positively Represent Asexuality within Humorous Fiction: Part 1, “What to Avoid”)

tumblr rec of this article, Holidays, Holy Days and Harvests

my thoughts and link to this article What it’s like to be called Isis: ‘People ask, where’s your machine gun?’

Link to this article Why we should have fewer children: to save the planet
quotes from and link to this article Stop Having Kids: We Already Have 6 Billion Too Many

Link to article about regretting parenthood
Links to 2 articles on regretting parenthood

A Woman Turned Down An Arranged Marriage ‘Cause The Guy Said She Had To Give Up Her Dog Good for her
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I was reading an interesting fanfic last night and it was hitting some of my kinks and favourite tropes. Then: bam. Relationship hierarchy.

The victim can only be cured by someone who truly loves them.

Woman? Yes, as per canon. Man? Yes, as per subtext (and canonically gay as of final episode, loving a different character).
But another character says they love the victim but can't help because what they feel is "platonic love".

So the victim can only be saved by someone who wants to screw them.

This again?
The love you have for a friend? The love between a parent and child? Between siblings? Between any person in your life that you're not screwing? This isn't "true love". This love is lesser than love for the person you are sexually interested in.
And it seems obvious to me that they do mean sex, because it's rare, even in fanfic, to distinguish between romantic love and sexual attraction.

It's hurtful to me as an asexual that this idea persists, that sex is somehow the be all and end all of a relationship.
It's damaging to society to make sex the only marker of affection, to have hierarchies like this.

I'm still debating about only leaving kudos or if I leave a comment because it made it hard to finish a story I was enjoying until that point. The instructions given for the cure in the fic were "someone who truly loves them" and there was no mention of sex/romance, but of course that's what it meant.

If the fic had specified "loves and desires them" rather than "truly loves them" I would have been all right with that. If a spell needs desire to be present, that is not the same as saying desire is more important (more "true") than other forms of love.


pointlessly crossposted to Tumblr
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Sex is Not Vital For a Loving Relationship (No matter what real or fictional therapists tell you)
Excerpt: This supposed professional just denied the existence of asexuality. She erased the right of not just asexuals, but people with physical disabilities which preclude sex, to be in a "loving relationship". She basically implied that survivors of sexual trauma need to have/resume having sex or they cannot be loved.

Originally posted to my wordpress
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One of the things I love about fandom is discussion. Finding other people who understand your need to rant or analyse or otherwise engage with the canon. Canon which is interesting enough to draw you in, but, in many cases, can be frustrating to deal with given some of the questionable writing choices of later seasons.
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This article has been crossposted to my Wordpress blog.

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Imagine someone you care about, a relative or a close friend, has a long term physical ailment. Let's say they have a bad back. Now let's add that they've been ill with a cold and a sneeze has aggravated their problems so they're suffering more than normal.

Do you think it is reasonable to shout at them for not putting away groceries, given that it would not be impossible but would be painful for them to reach up to a cupboard?

If they're feeling down because they haven't been able to go out and go shopping or meet friends, because they've been ill, is it okay to get angry with them for being upset about it? Or to refuse to take them shopping, further isolating them, because they're over emotional?

You have free minutes on your mobile and it's no problem to phone their landline or their mobile. If they prefer you call the mobile, physically easier to get to, rather than the landline, do you make this small accommodation? Or do you refuse to talk to them at all because they're just making a fuss?

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I read a lot of articles from various sources. If I've seen the link via Tumblr I usually reblog, or if not sometimes I post a link (though almost no-one ever takes notice). Sometimes I add it to a pinterest board. Occasionally I remember to round up a handful of them and post them to LJ/DW, like now :)

A mixed bag again from the recent to the long ago, everything from labyrinths and pets to sexism and tattoos, and of course, media, writing, and fanfiction.
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