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Date: 2013-03-07 02:05 pm (UTC)I think there's this idea of kink as being rubber nun outfits and fluffy handcuffs which seem to me to be more people playing with the idea of kinkiness. Whereas an actual kink for a particular thing or situation probably benefits from some degree of realism. Although I could be wrong! So yes, real handcuffs are part of the kink for Gerry - along with pushing the boundaries into a bit more roughness that he experienced!