ramblings

[meridian_rose]

Let's start with good news for UK Leverage fans – we're getting third season, finally :D And about time, given that there's a Leverage convention happening here shortly.

Now some blah stuff: Why is it every time I make a post about something really important to me, someone removes me from their flist? Last time it was when I pimped out my Dreamwidth comm, dryspell and this time it's just after I posted about asexuality. On the other hand I've gained three new awesome people recently so on balance, yay :D

I'm not going to stop talking about sex and sexuality anyway :P There's a great link from the asexuality tumblr to an article about the ever present bromance in the media.
Ah, What A Fine Bromance! The Hidden Asexual Narratives In Pop Culture points out that for people like Holmes/Watson the bromance goes beyond mere friendship and enters the territory of an asexual relationship:

Not friendships. Partnerships. ‘Friendship,’ for some asexuals, doesn’t describe the close connections they have with certain people in their lives, people who are not just friends. But, of course, the idea that any kind of intimate, deep relationship must involve sex means that such connections are routinely written off by society in general.

Well worth a look.

From the Yes Means Yes page, this article is a frank and moving account of one woman's search to find a sexuality that would allow her orgasm, a lack of which poisoned every relationship she had. I found it notable for some of her closing statements about sexuality:

I don’t like seeing sex-positive feminism equated with making oneself freely sexually available. Exploring sexuality does not mean you have to ignore your warning bells.
Sexuality is so complicated. Sex cannot be reduced to bodies, or hormones, or psychological stereotypes. Sex cannot be reduced to certainties, to shoulds and shouldn’ts. If I could destroy every force in our lives that drives home ideas of sexual “normality”, I would. Which leads to my final piece of advice: don’t let me tell you what to do. This is just my experience, just my ideas. As with everything, I want you to do whatever feels right for you — as long as it’s among consenting adults.

And while I still can't find the original article on virginity as a social construct, this article from Scarleteen is pretty damn good: Magical Cups & Bloody Brides: Virginity in Context. In fact Scartleteen is a great resource not just for the teens the site is aimed at, but for anyone who has questions about sex and sexuality

Tomorrow is Halloween and I haven't yet written my Samhain post. I hope to get it posted early tomorrow.

And then it will be November and my mini NaNo type project :D For the writers amongst you, I recommend you take a look at lar_laughs's post here; she links to a great resource but gives details about it in a very funny and appropriate way :D

Finally, the Legend of the Seeker Last Author Standing competition is intense this round. I loved every entry and choosing just two was incredibly difficult. How come this fandom is full of such talent?

Comments

[eternal-moonie.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

I'll never unfriend you honey.

Those who do are just stupid or don't want confrontation.

[meridian_rose]

Thank you *hugs*

If they don't like me trying to help people out or talking about things that are important to me, they probably don't belong on my flist anyway :D

[hrhrionastar.livejournal.com]

Holmes/Watson - what a great example :D

I'm glad you're not giving up on posting important stuff - anyone who would unfriend you because of that probably isn't a real friend, anyway.

[meridian_rose]

Holmes is pretty much a poster boy for asexuality in any incarnation, not least the recent BBC adaptation in which he seems perplexed at the idea of him having either a girlfriend or a boyfriend :D

You're right, and I know you're right, but it still made me go GRRR. Even though it might just be coincidence and nothing to do with that particular post. Also, yeah, not going to write PWP insert-fandom-here stuff just to please individuals who never comment. I post whatever I've created or I'm thinking about and I make no apologies for it :D

[hrhrionastar.livejournal.com]

I post whatever I've created or I'm thinking about and I make no apologies for it :D I admire this so much, and I always try to do the same :D