I should make a locked post about therapy because I've got a few stories I could tell. I never even had that bad of an experience with therapy (i.e. none of my therapists were abusive or anything like that), but I'm not sure any of them actually helped and most left me feeling worse about myself than when I started.

I would much rather a friend tell me "no, I don't think I can" than "yes, absolutely, count on me!" and then not be there when I need them. (And the ones who have let you down repeatedly so you stop asking, but then later go, "Well, that's your fault for not asking me. You know you can call me any time. I would have been glad to help out.")

All of the people I'm particularly grumpy about are ex-friends for this reason (plus one well-meaning-but-unreliable friend who I'm relieved moved away because even though she genuinely meant well it was very stressful never knowing when she was going to bail on plans). But I've got a new set of acquaintances where I sense the pattern repeating. Gushing promises of "You can count on me!" where I find myself being very doubtful.