He's maybe a little disappointed but it's true that they've known each too long for flirting to really work. It isn't lack of attraction that's the issue so much as the baggage acknowledging it fully would bring, in particular Kat's reluctance to enter into any long term relationship. I hope it also ties in with Cal's initial assertion that Ryan 'isn't his type' which ultimately proves false. I'm a firm believer in relationships being built on a firmer foundation than initial lust/chemistry.
I once saw a tv documentary once on gender and social behaviour. They took groups of men and women to a bar and tracked eye movements and other cues and asked them questions about the people they encountered. The women were, on the whole, scanning the entire body and making value judgements and constructing narratives based on appearance and behaviour. The men focused on the breasts, face, breasts, other, breasts. They also didn't really consider personality as early. Also one gender kept scanning for 'a better catch' while the other remained fixated on the 'one in hand', although shamefully I can't remember which way around it was. So while there are no absolutes in gender and gendered behaviour we can make broad stroke assumptions that will prove right more often than not. Long comment is long but I do find these things fascinating.
Thank you. I had a 'red' version but I went for the yellow. I'm glad you like it :D
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He's maybe a little disappointed but it's true that they've known each too long for flirting to really work. It isn't lack of attraction that's the issue so much as the baggage acknowledging it fully would bring, in particular Kat's reluctance to enter into any long term relationship.
I hope it also ties in with Cal's initial assertion that Ryan 'isn't his type' which ultimately proves false. I'm a firm believer in relationships being built on a firmer foundation than initial lust/chemistry.
I once saw a tv documentary once on gender and social behaviour. They took groups of men and women to a bar and tracked eye movements and other cues and asked them questions about the people they encountered.
The women were, on the whole, scanning the entire body and making value judgements and constructing narratives based on appearance and behaviour. The men focused on the breasts, face, breasts, other, breasts. They also didn't really consider personality as early.
Also one gender kept scanning for 'a better catch' while the other remained fixated on the 'one in hand', although shamefully I can't remember which way around it was. So while there are no absolutes in gender and gendered behaviour we can make broad stroke assumptions that will prove right more often than not.
Long comment is long but I do find these things fascinating.
Thank you. I had a 'red' version but I went for the yellow. I'm glad you like it :D